7 Steps to Stop Suffering in Relationships

7 Steps to Stop Suffering in Relationships
A 7-Day Emotional Healing Guide
By Evgeniya Glebova


INTRODUCTION

If you are reading this, it means part of you is tired.
Tired of giving your all and getting half in return.
Tired of being confused, anxious, or addicted to the hope that “maybe this time will be different.”
Tired of carrying the emotional weight of someone who never learned how to love you well.

This guide is for the woman who doesn’t want to suffer for love anymore.
And yet — doesn’t quite know how to stop.

Here, over the next 7 days, you’ll slowly untangle yourself from pain.
You’ll start building emotional safety, piece by piece.
You’ll finally come back to the one person who never left you — yourself.


DAY 1: SEE THE PAIN FOR WHAT IT IS

Theme: Awareness is the beginning of healing.

We often stay in toxic dynamics because we’ve learned to normalize pain.
You tell yourself: “It’s not that bad.” “Maybe it’s my fault.” “I just need to try harder.”

But here’s the truth:
Love should never make you feel small, scared, or ashamed.

You’re not being dramatic. You’re not asking for too much.
You’re finally starting to notice the weight you’ve been carrying.

Exercise:
Write down the moments that made you feel:

  • Unsafe
  • Unseen
  • Unworthy

No filters. Let the truth come out. This is your mirror, not your judgment.

Reflection Prompt:
What part of me is still trying to make pain feel like love?


DAY 2: BREAK THE CYCLE OF SELF-BLAME

Theme: You are not the cause of someone else’s inability to love.

When relationships hurt, many women automatically assume: “It must be me.”
You become the fixer. The overthinker. The peacekeeper.
You try to earn love that should’ve been freely given.

But you are not responsible for someone else’s emotional immaturity.

Healing truth:
The way someone treats you is a reflection of them — not a definition of you.

Practice:
Write this affirmation and repeat it throughout the day:
“It was never about being enough. It was about being with someone who could receive me.”

Reflection Prompt:
What burdens have I been carrying that never belonged to me?


DAY 3: MEET YOUR OWN NEEDS FIRST

Theme: You were never meant to abandon yourself to feel loved.

If you constantly silence your voice, suppress your desires, or pretend you’re okay — that’s not love. That’s survival.

Love shouldn’t cost you your wholeness.

Exercise: The Self-Check-In List
Ask yourself:

  • What do I need right now emotionally?
  • What am I craving that I keep ignoring?
  • What would it look like to give it to myself — today?

Even the smallest act of self-care is a revolution when you were taught to neglect yourself.

Mantra:
“I don’t have to betray myself to be loved.”


DAY 4: FEEL TO RELEASE

Theme: Suppressed emotions don’t disappear — they get stored.

So many women are told to “be strong.” But strength isn’t the absence of emotion — it’s the ability to move through it.

When you finally allow yourself to feel — sadness, anger, grief — something opens.

You’re no longer fighting your truth. You’re allowing it to be witnessed.

Practice:

  • Find 15 minutes of quiet
  • Place your hand on your heart
  • Ask: “What emotion is stuck in me right now?”
  • Let it rise — cry, write, scream into a pillow — whatever it takes

Reflection Prompt:
What is the emotion I’ve been most afraid to feel?


DAY 5: STOP CHASING THE UNAVAILABLE

Theme: Consistency is not boring. It’s safe.

Your nervous system may feel drawn to chaos — hot-and-cold love, inconsistency, high highs and low lows.

But that’s not passion. That’s addiction.

Let this land:
Love that feels calm may feel unfamiliar — but that’s because your baseline was survival.

Journal Prompt:

  • Who was emotionally unavailable in your early life?
  • How has that shaped your attraction to partners today?

Mantra:
“I don’t need unpredictability to feel alive. I choose peace.”


DAY 6: REDIRECT OBSESSION INTO CREATION

Theme: Reclaim the energy you’ve poured into someone else — and give it back to you.

How many hours have you spent analyzing texts, wondering what went wrong, replaying conversations?

Now ask:
What would happen if I invested that same energy into healing, joy, growth?

Exercise:
Create a “You Project” list:

  • 3 things that inspire you
  • 3 things that calm you
  • 3 things you’ve always wanted to do but didn’t because of the relationship

Do one small thing from that list today.

Reflection Prompt:
Who am I when I am not wrapped in someone else’s story?


DAY 7: CREATE A NEW INNER NARRATIVE

Theme: The story you tell yourself becomes the life you live.

You are not the girl who always gets hurt.
You are not the woman who’s “too much” or “too needy.”
You are becoming someone new — someone who believes she’s worthy of gentle love.

Practice:
Write a letter to the woman you’re becoming.
Describe her:

  • How she feels about herself
  • What kind of love she accepts
  • How she speaks, walks, chooses

Let this be your new truth.

Mantra:
“I am not hard to love. I am just no longer willing to settle for crumbs.”


AFTERWORD: THE PEACE YOU’VE BEEN WAITING FOR

If you’ve made it here, something in you has already shifted.
You stopped waiting for someone else to save you.
You chose yourself.

Healing is not about perfection. It’s about progress.
And today, you took seven steps toward peace.

Don’t rush to be “fully healed.”
Let yourself evolve softly, day by day.

You are not alone.
And this — this was just the beginning.